A topic that has come up a lot with me has been about beating your kids … Somewhere someone said it wasn’t okay to beat your kids and instead of giving a spanking, you should give them a “time out” … In this issue of the Out On the Town, there is a benefit concert to be held for kids by kids … One of the promotional things they’re using is the “We Are The World” song that I think was put together by Michael Jackson a ways back … When I saw this, it moved me and I put it up at www.wombatsweb.com … I also threw a link to the concert on the www.ootweb.com page … and one thing I recently found interesting was a web page pointed out by a guy in S. Il …
http://maddox.xmission.com/beat.html … I think he starts off with a valid point that at some point someone forgot where discipline stopped and child abuse begins … Of course maddox puts his spins on things and goes on to suggest methods of whacking your kids, but I think his point is made … We all grew up being “beat” by our parents … Most of us probably didn’t end up in the hospital as a result of it …
I watched Bill Cosby, Himself one night while flipping around on the tube … Amost the whole routine is about him “beating” his kids … I think a lot of people forgot that Mr. Black America talked about this openly and full of humor … I remember a Damon Wayans show where he talked about this as well … I’m not trying to single out black comedians, but they’re the ones that stuck, and I think they made the point as well …
I proved this point myself … I have a 17 year old son who was not disciplined with the hand, but rather by depravation … It didn’t work … There was nothing to deprive him of … When spanking was tried later on in his life, it had no effect … My 5 year old however had this habit of being mean to his younger brother … I think it was a form of jealousy as well as him not knowing what to do with his feelings as well … I mean when sat down and asked why he did what he did, he said ‘I don’t know’ … That’s what we used to do, make him sit on the couch and not get up until we told him he could …
One day it came to a head … He was being mean to his brother, so I put him over my knee and gave him a spanking … Surprised the crap out of him … That worked for a while, but then we caught him again poking or prodding his brother … Pushing him … again, he went over the knee … He hasn’t been mean to his brother since (and this was 2 or 3 months ago), and we are finding that in other areas of him misbehaving, the threat of a spanking would help to persuade good behavior …
So I have come to the conclusion that spanking a child when they’re bad as I was is the way to go … the “time out” didn’t work obviously, cause we did that a lot … Ultimately, the pain to the posterior was the solution … I didn’t pull down his pants and smack his bare behind … I didn’t find a weapon such as a shoe or belt, I used my hand on his clothed butt … and my hand did hurt … about 10 smacks to the butt in a systematic regular interval … He now knows we mean business, and his behavior has gotten much better … Does he live in fear of us? I don’t think so, but I’m sure he does a little … I think if you have the threat of a spanking in your armory, it helps a lot when in situations where sometimes kids get away with discipline … When we’re in public, and beating the crap out of your kid just seems to be socially unacceptable …
In the store, your kid is being bad … You look straight into their face, grit your teeth, “Do you want a spanking?” BOOM! Instant turnaround in behavior … Maddox ends his beat post with “If you love your kids, love them enough to beat them so they don’t grow up to be idiots.”
Maddox is the idiot. If he was a real man, he wouldn’t beat kids. He’d grow up and only pick on people his own size. Like me. In rare cases does physical punishment work, but in most, it leads to a razor-sharp butcher knife in the slap-happy sleeping fool’s chest.
Hey Clown, way to comment on something from 3 years ago … You’ve obviously missed the point of the post, and you’re leading me to believe that you’re inclined to physical violence in the nature of murder … So, I’d say to you that you probably weren’t disciplined as a child and probably are due for a good spanking yourself … If “rare cases” to you means all children born in the 50s, 60s and 70s, I’d shudder to see what “the norm” would mean to you … The post obviously demostrates how the world has changed, and what people may think is abhorrent discipline practices, it’s done nothing but allow the youth of the world today to run rampant and do as they please … Consequences? They are none, but when I was a kid, there were …
You know nothing about me. I voiced my opinion, and I, who was born 2 months before Maddox, should get spanked for that? And as for “the norm,” David, discipline is understandable, but a child being beaten to the point where they’re in the fetal position? Sooner or later, they’re going to get to thinking that murder is the only way out. I heard those stories from some teens, and they got the welts and bruises to prove it. I never said that kids should go wild, but at the same time, they should not have to fear being hit just for being kids. So, hate me all you want, but read what that loser has to say a little more deeply before you further judge me. Don’t get me wrong, I do have a sense of humor, but there are some things that cross the line. Child abuse is one of them.
So I believe you’re commenting on Maddox’s page and not the content I have here … That’s all well and good, but I didn’t repeat Maddox’s content … I referenced it and submitted that he went off on the topic taking it beyond the limits of logic, and that’s what he does … If you have something against Maddox, then berate him all you want via his methods, whatever they are … Checking in on Maddox’s site just now in commenting to you is probably the first time I’ve been to his site in 3 years, since originally reading his post about my topic … My post is not about Child Abuse … My post is about an America that had their children living in fear of physical discipline … I referenced those comedians that I had recently saw comment on it, and I submitted how effective it was for me … Nowhere do I believe that I stated that I condone Child Abuse … After your post brought this topic back into my mind, I told my son that had been given the spanking that I just realized that it’s been 3 years since he’s been spanked and I think it’s about time he had another one … He was not happy about this, and see, the result is still powerful … I think I’ll raise my kids how I deem fit and not how governmental policy may try to dictate … I never suggested that I was going the Maddox Method … That was just another reason that fueled posting my thoughts in my bLog … So, I believe you need to be voicing your opinion to Maddox and not me … Thanks …